Installing 8.3 / SQL Server

[motherlode]

I am trying to install C8.3 on windows 2003 sp2.  I have tried to install the content store with sql server 2008 and the native content db in cognos but still have failure.  Here is the msg below.
CM-CFG-5063 A Content Manager configuration error was detected while connecting to the content store.
CM-SYS-5003 Content Manager is unable to access the content store. Verify your database connection parameters, and then contact your database administrator for assistance.
Failed Logon:com.jnetdirect.jsql.JSQLException: TCP/IP connection failed to host:localhost java.net.ConnectException: Connection refused: connect url:jdbc:JSQLConnect://localhost:1433/cognos
3. 22:11:40, 'ContentManager', 'getActiveContentManager', 'Failure'.
DPR-CMI-4006 Unable to determine the active Content Manager. Will retry periodically.
4. 22:11:40, 'com.cognos.pogo.contentmanager.coordinator.ActiveCMControl', 'pogo', 'Failure

[motherlode]

I got it - it was in the sql config of connectivity (named pipes)